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Marthelia B. Hargrove
July 20, 1940 - August 03, 2010

Marthelia B. Hargrove, beloved former principal of Costaño Elementary School in East Palo Alto, quietly passed away Tuesday, August 3, 2010 in Santa Clara, CA after a short illness.

She was born in Oxford, NC to Eddie and Zeola Burroughs. She married John Hargrove in July, 1972, and they have made their home in Santa Clara for nearly 40 years.

Everyone knew her fondly as “Marty” and her energy, optimism and love of people gained her many friends.

Marty entered Virginia Union University in Richmond in the fall of 1957 and earned a bachelor’s degree in education. She received a Masters in Early Childhood Education from Virginia State University. She was honored as the Principal of the Year for her services with the Ravenswood City School District as head of Costaño.

Marty taught her students to believe in themselves and in daily morning greetings over the school’s intercom, always reminded them that they were somebody and that they were achievers.

She dedicated her life to the community. She was a longtime member of the Peninsula Bay Chapter of Links, Inc., and provided inspiration and vision to that volunteer organization both as a member and as chapter president. After she left the school district, she spearheaded the Dictionary Project which brought Links members and their husbands into the classrooms to engage third graders in dialog about the use of word references and the project provided each student with their own personal copy.

She was the recipient of numerous awards and recognitions, including one of the prestigious Outstanding Black Women Awards from the Mid-Peninsula YWCA of Palo Alto. Marty also served on the Board of Directors for the Mid-Peninsula Girls Club of East Palo Alto.

She is survived by her devoted husband, John Hargrove, her sister Elizabeth Burwell and brother Leonard Burroughs, both of Henderson, NC and a host of other loving family members and friends.

She leaves a legacy of her bright spirit, her love of children and her dedication to their education.

A memorial tribute, quiet hour and viewing will take place Monday, Aug. 9th at 7 p.m. at Jones Mortuary, 660 Donohoe St., East Palo Alto. A funeral and celebration of her life will be held at Antioch Baptist Church, 268 E. Julian Street, San Jose, at 11 a.m., Tuesday, Aug. 10th. In lieu of flowers, the family requests donations to Peninsula Bay Links Scholarship Fund for students, 292 Serra Way, #292 Milpitas, CA 95035 or to the MLK Scholarship Fund at Antioch.

Marty’s husband, John, will take her home to her native North Carolina where a service will be held later in the week for family and friends at Shiloh Baptist Church in Henderson. She will be laid to rest in her birthplace in Oxford.


See two articles from the East Palo Alto Today newspaper in which Marthelia Hargrove was featured.

Viewing Service Final Disposition
Date: August 9, 2010
Time: 7:00 p.m. to 8:00 p.m.
Place: Jones Mortuary
Address: 660 Donohoe
City,State: East Palo Alto, CA
Date: August 10, 2010
Time: 11:00 a.m.
Place: Antioch Baptist Church
Address: 268 E. Julian Street
City,State: San Jose, CA
Date: August 13, 2010
Time: 1:00 p.m.
Place: Antioch Missionary Baptist Church Cemetary
Address: 5046 Antioch Road
City,State: Oxford, N.C.


Thank you for during this short time on earth sharing your wisdom and love

We'll miss your energy and spirit. You're with the angels now.


Kirsten & Natalia

Posted by Kirsten Hammond, on Aug 7, 2010 at 6:12 pm

I will miss your kindness and leadership at our Links meetings.

Sincerely, Mona
Posted by Mona, on Aug 7, 2010 at 8:25 pm

IT was my pleasure working with you for several years on the MLK Planning Committee. You always made sure your young people were incluced, which made for a wonderful program.

I will miss you and your food presetation at this event.

Posted by shirley, on Aug 7, 2010 at 8:47 pm

Though I only knew you for a short time as "Tressie's Aunt", I am blessed by the crossing of our paths.
Posted by Lorraine Stephens, on Aug 8, 2010 at 5:42 am

It was always a pleasure to spend time with you. I will miss you forever.



Posted by Irene Utley, on Aug 8, 2010 at 2:06 pm

Dear Marty, I will always remember your ready smile and your quick laughter. I will aslo remember fondly, that stare that only you could give, when we weren't saying what you wanted to hear.

You were our "Auntie Mame", so full of life, style and color.

Be at peace........ Love Tressie

Posted by Tressie, on Aug 8, 2010 at 6:06 pm

Marty, my friend and Link Sister, you will forever live in our hearts. We had some good laughs and great times. I think of the late nights on Cozetta Guinn's floor trying to assemble material for our fundraisers. And I think of you hustling in with food for the MLK reception, or for the Links June Workshop or carrying in materials for our Dictionary Project at the schools! You were such a hard worker. I can see now, with that twinkle in your eye and sweat beading on your nose, saying "Whew!" But most of all I remember how extraordinarily you loved your students and how blessed they were that they had you in their corner. May God forever bless you.
Posted by Loretta Green, on Aug 8, 2010 at 6:09 pm

Marty, you have made an imprint on the lives of many. Your energy and insistence to always present your best was something you passed on to everyone you touched. Your commitment to community was genuine and your gift of hospitality a blessing you shared generously. I thank God for having known you.
Posted by Linda Burroughs, on Aug 8, 2010 at 8:12 pm

Marty, I want to take this opportunity to say goodby for themany who love you. Your departure came much to soo for us. However, "Life is built on swift transitions, naught on earth untouched can stand." Who are we to question God? I would have chosen to keep things the way they were. But I can give thanks for the joy of having been your friend. Over the years, as Peninsula Bay Links, we worked on numerous projects together. Then there were the times we shared your cake and my peach cobbler. And the times we played Ray Charles; "Bad Water tryin' to run all over me..." You had an encompassing, kind personality. May your shining spirit remain with us all. Love, Cozetta Guinn
Posted by Cozetta Guinn, on Aug 8, 2010 at 10:44 pm

Marty,although we have not seen each other much since we moved from the Pinsula, I will always remember the good times you, Lila and I spent gabbing together. I am often reminded of the twinkle in your eyes at some mischievous comment made, the bristle in your countenance at some misdeed done by others, your haste in helping those in need, and above all your hardy laughter at something funny. Along with your Link Sisters and others, I will miss you and applaud your life as one which inspired others to be the best they could be. This is not a farewell because your infectious spirit will live on in those you touched.
Posted by Virginia Lockhart, on Aug 9, 2010 at 11:56 am

Dear Mrs Hargrove,

Thank you for being such a good friend to my mom, Loretta. I know you meant a lot to her and she will miss you terribly. May God bless you and all those who love and cherish you.

Posted by Nicole Green, on Aug 9, 2010 at 1:04 pm

Dear Marty, How well I remember all your hard work, love and creativity over the years with the Peninsula Bay Links. We also had some fun times....I especially remember the rehearsals we, "The Hot Links" dance group had in your school library--and while there we saw the affection your students had for you. Later @ the fund raiser it all paid off. Even tho' I had to leave the Chapter, due to both my sons illnesses, everytime we saw each other you said, "Come back to the Chapter." You even said it, for the 100th time, when I saw you last ;-> I'll miss that smile, laugh, your delicious cooking, etc. We don't know why you returned to God so soon but maybe He needed someone to plan the heavenly parties....Well party hardy, Marty, Luv you, Connee Peters
Posted by Connee Peters, on Aug 9, 2010 at 1:20 pm

Marty, you have been a mighty, mighty "wind beneath my wings" which I will always treasure. Although I have only known you a few short years, many lessons of life and laughs have been shared through very challenging times. You have been a remarkable sisterly friend and mentor, especially for my transition into Linkdom. Your dedication and service to the young people in the community was monumental.You served as their inspiration and nurturing agent for progressive change. May God bless you as you have blessed so many with your generosity, service,leadership and kindness. Your legacy of love will last forever. Cecilie Vaughters-Johnson
Posted by Cecilie Vaughters-Johnson, on Aug 9, 2010 at 4:44 pm

To the family of Marty from one who cares.My heart, prayers and

deepest sympathy are with you in your time of sorrow

Those we love will always remain a part of us

Elise Martin (Loretta Green's mother)

Mamalise to Marty

Posted by Elise Martin, on Aug 10, 2010 at 5:59 pm


We go back over thirty years ,long before I joined the LInks. I remember our school administration classes in the 1980':s at San Jose State and how we use to study together. Your visits with Lela to my home in San Carlos, where you would stay until the wee hours of the morning.

Once, I became a Link, you were my mentor and always had my back..We spent many nights working on Links fundraisers, projects. MLK and etc.

Most of all.. I will miss our phone calls two or three times a week and sometimes multiple calls the same day.. our visits to restaurants or to just hang out and listen to Margie in a jazz club.

Your passing has left another void in my life, but I know that GOD knows best and so I will ask no questions.

As an angel, continue your love for your sister Links. as we will for you..

With Love,


Posted by Carolyn Olive, on Aug 10, 2010 at 8:51 pm

A wonderful teacher and loving friend. The best "President for a Day" Cisco Systems has ever had. We will miss her smile and voice. jpm
Posted by Tashia & John Morgirdge, on Aug 27, 2010 at 6:09 am

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